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Topic: Are women better parents than men

Being parent is hard work but can bring fulfilling and memorable experience. In fact, both genders are capable of looking after children but they have various responsibilities. Traditionally, the majority of females were housewives who were responsible to do housework, childcare only and fathers were the pillar of economics who worked outside. Unfortunately, nowadays, the single mothers and fathers have been increased in modern life .Thus, females can be more important role and independent in their families due to they have to instead of father’s role to have reliable income and take care their children simultaneously. Basically, women are good at looking after children if compare with men. This is because women have innate female aptitude. For instance, mothers are always worry about their children leading to make a plan and do enough preparation for them such as choosing nutritional food .Thus, they are willing to stay at home or desire to come back home immediately even they have their own careers. They are also comparative know how to distribute their time for the time between their job and families .However, most of men prefer having some entertainments to release their stressed after working rather than go home. Men may think children always make noise and annoying lead to less participate in communication with them. They may also believe that communication which is mother’s responsibility. Therefore, men may easier to neglect their children than women. This essay will focus on psychological and biological factors to discuss the argument for women may be better parent than men and the argument against men can be good parents rather than women. I will also give my opinion and explain why I agree women are better parents that men in the conclusion.


Parents can abandon anything but excluding their children. Most of women think parenting is their career that they are willing to dedicate their life to their family. However, men may not able to distracted to think about their children when they concentrate on working. For instance, when married couples decide to divorce, mothers might strive for the authority of staying with children rather than fathers. The survey from US department of commerce was indicated that about 5 of every 6 custodial parents were mothers by 84.4 percent but merely 1 in 6 were fathers by 15.6 percent in 2002 .(1) Therefore, women may be more dedicated parents than men due to the psychological factor. Moreover, non custodial fathers comply with the law who are responsible and commit to pay alimony. The survey also reported that about 59 percent of custodial parents had various type of support agreement for their children via court order (1) .The divorced couples may make the non legal agreement between each other e such as arrange their children can see their non custodial fathers regularly to maintain their relationship or provide more alimony for child support.

Furthermore, women have shorter reproductive life than man because of biological urge can lead to many women desire to become mothers.. Men can have many children if they want more but women can not due to menopause. “Most male can raise their reproduction by mating with many females” (Betzig 1992) (2). For instance, The world most prolific father, Ismail the Bloodthirsty, is such a man.. According to the Guinness book of world records, he fathered 888 children.(2) Maternal effect and identifications may cause women are more primary parents than men. Females have instinctive ability of childbearing and behavior of child-rearing because of nature. Women have vital role and impossible to change of sexual division of labor even in the past or present. Therefore, women have lower fitness ceiling due to ten months of gestation and feel children are more important for them because they experience how hard and memorable during the period between gestation and labor. In fact, mother’s role can not change and replace by males because of various factors between physical and biological but men are possible to be better parent then women in different situation.

Apparently, Fathers are always give the impression which is never do housework and can not look after their children very well because they may think that is women’s responsibility in family. As the report indicates the high percentage of custodial mothers which reflect the children are more preferable to stay with their mothers than fathers but this phenomenon which is not really true。In fact, fathers can be better parents because “mothering” is not only female’s exclusive skill. For instance, single fathers who have to manage their family and go to work simultaneously. The study cites that four out of five single fathers who did the housekeeping by themselves and did not rely on housekeeper or girlfriend. Over 80% of all fathers reported that they were personally responsible for the different tasks of housekeeping: grocery shopping food preparation, house cleaning and yard work (3).The result also indicates that children had dinner with their fathers at home between five and six times per week. (3) Single fathers can be primary parents because of their patient and caring for their children but their economic status also is a vital factor.
Over half of the most wealthy men with about 58% hire outside help for house keeping versus 13% to 19 % of men in other income categories(4) which means the high income single fathers are
willing to do housekeeping for their families such as cooking dinner.

Moreover, Males can be satisfied fathers even they have no tendency and skill to look after children. However ,they have traits and tend to internalize their psychic predisposition that are possible reasons can replace mother’s role. For instance, single fathers are busy at work but they would know what expectation for their children such as activities, health care. It’ is hard for their children express what are they exactly needs but the single fathers can make well arranged preparation.


In conclusion, it is obvious that women and men are both can be satisfied parents but it may occur in different situation. In my point of view, I believe that women are better parents than men because it is no doubt women’s mothering ability which is natural such as the period of pregnancy and labour that women have to suffer extremely pained process before they be mothers leading to women closed connection with their children. Thus, mothers would like to devote their life to their family. However, men never experience how painful of labour. Maternity can not instead of men despite they can do housekeeping and childcare as women.





References:

Family relations, vol.35, No.1, The single parent Family (Jan 1986),P95-102,Punlished by: National Council on Family Relations

(1) Timothy S.Grall(2003),current population report,” Custodial mothers and fathers and their children support:2001”

(2)Dorothy Einon (1998)”How many children can one men have”

(3) Barbara J. Risman(1996) “Can Men “ Mother” Life as a Single Father , the Result from instrument tasks of childrearing: Fathers as Homemakers

(4) Barbara J. Risman(1996) “Can Men “ Mother” Life as a Single Father , the Result from the impact of social class